...you wake up. Obviously. So apparently God wanted me to see a few things via Facebook. Things about being single and developing this season of singleness, things about who not to let into your life in the coming year (or ever), and encourage and laugh with people. I will address these one by one.
My singleness. As long as I can remember I've always long for a girlfriend. As I got older that evolved into longing for a wife. I think what screwed me up was 1) reading a book called "I Kiss Dating Goodbye" amongst other Christian dating books. And 2) unrealistic, relationship goals/methods/ideas.
The thought for me was, I was single because either it wasnt time or my sinful habits. Other times I played the scenario sessions in my head and talked myself into screwing up relationships. Sign of a good writer? No, sign of a idiot, foolish and neurotic. God forgive me for such foolishness.
As for developing myself in my singleness, I find that leading my mom and sister to be one of the perfect ways to lead my future family should the Lord provide. I've learned now that if I want to lead them, I first have to be lead by the Spirit, to the Word of God, knowing my position in Christ as His child, ambassador, His beloved (and my favorite cause its my name translated) His Judge with a Message to the Saints OR His Saint with a Message of Judgement.
People in Your Life. I've had toxic people throughout the years and I'll admit, I've been one toxic MoFo myself. But Im learning to prune. One thing Ive come to learn and apply is that "you dont need many people in your life, just the right ones" And I thank God for the right people:
(In no particular order) Janelle, Justine, Ruth, Roy, Kuya Mark, Herveen. That right there... solid!
Finally, to encourage and laugh with people. I believe God made me an encourager. I mean I've seen and been through some crazy things in my life and I firmly believe though things helped me in encouaging and laughing with people but also to understand in a way that... well for all intents and purposes, is kinda creepy. For example, when someone post something via social media thay catches my eye, I stand back and think, "why did they write/post/blog about that? What is this person going through? What word of encouragement do they need? "
Is that wierd to think that way? Well, I dont know anyone else who thinks like that so... yeah. It's wierd. Then again, I claim I'm wierd so it's all good!
Better wierd than the normal! Ha!!!
I will say though, when I do put myself in others shoes like that... it's tiring. And you can only say and do so much before you say, "I can no longer help you. Help yourself!" Is that rude? Maybe for some, but for me, its a teachable moment.
-Dont spread yourself thinly.
-Work on yourself first.
-Work on your relationship with God first.
-Work on His Kingdom and for His glory.
And all these things shall be added onto you. Well, then... what can I do except that which God calls me to: Be an encourager/prayer warrior/shoulder to cry on, bring in flourishing people in your/my life, and finally develop myself in my singleness in preparation for my marriage.
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